A Way Through The Dark

Tony Robbins. An amazing motivational speaker, but an unfortunate communication breakdown resulted last week that has the internet a buzz. I’m sure you heard or read about it. If you haven’t, let me fill you in on what I have learned and watched. Well, Tony challenged the female who spoke out about #metoo and I don’t think it went as he had hoped. (We are all learning here! Me included.) It made many people angry and very upset. Why? Because he challenged their experience and they didn’t care for it. And when one is triggered, then it has been my experience there are some juicy emotions that could use some flushing out.

It’s unfortunate it happened in the way it did, yet I think it’s a springboard to analyze what is going on, what people’s true intentions are with their own growth and being honest with themselves, to move beyond their victim/perpetrator roles.



What I think he was trying to say was that staying in the victim/perpetrator dynamic, you will never move beyond and step into your own power. If you are still under someone else’s power, which ultimately is a fallacy, then you will never find peace. But the thing is, there are some steps to get there. It’s quite difficult to just jump from one place to another and tada! You’ve got the whole pain thing licked.


Imagine if he said (or someone else you are looking to for support and guidance):

“Shit happens, but you don’t have to suffer any longer. When you remain in the victim persona, then you don’t have control over your life and you can’t steer your own ship, you are at the whim of everyone else. You are in a contracted, fearful state. Is that where you want to be? If not, then lets move you through where you are now and into where you could be and I know you want to be. Let’s take a journey and move together through the steps of personal expansion.”


Imagine if he said:


“I acknowledge that there are a lot of people who have experienced intimidation, fear, sexual molestation and rape, women, men and children. And you had that experience, too”


“I acknowledge that there are perpetrators out there, most likely victims previously in their own ways, and that energy can perpetuate in deep and dark ways.”


“I acknowledge that it is so hard, not only during the experience, but that your mind and body are no longer the same, that you now try to make sense of it, and try to feel whole, but somehow you don’t know how to. Your mind keeps going over and over it and depression, fear and frustration are now a constant.”


“What a pity. What a pity that it happened, that you e